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Rooted, growing, and established in the faith

As ye have therefore received Christ Jesus the Lord, so walk ye in him: Rooted and built up in him, and stablished in the faith, as ye have been taught, abounding therein with thanksgiving. Beware lest any man spoil you through philosophy and vain deceit, after the tradition of men, after the rudiments of the world, and not after Christ (Colossians 2:6-8).

Ask anyone around where our apartment is, where my wife or I work, or even our church:  I love plants.  Each spring, I enjoy the thrill of re-potting the houseplants before bringing them outside for the season.  I enjoy picking out new plants for the window boxes and pots that I keep in front of our apartment.  In the early spring and in the last few weeks of fall, I even give away cuttings to friends and neighbors.  There are a few things that this hobby has taught me that not only apply to plant care, but also about life and my walk with the Lord Jesus Christ.

Before I give any plants away, the cuttings must be prepared.  They must be trimmed, potted, take root, and have new growth before I give them to anyone.  Nothing would hurt my reputation more than to give someone a small plant than to have that plant die a few days after I gave it to them.  Right now, we have a few cuttings that we are preparing to give away – but the sure-sign they are well rooted is new growth.  I believe that this concept of being “well rooted and growing” is very similar to Paul’s rooted and built up in him instructions he wrote for the church at Colossus and Christians everywhere.

As the cuttings take root they begin to sprout new growth.  Depending on the type of plant, this can be new leaves, new stems, or even blooms – each is an indication that the cutting has taken root in the soil and is now, in the words of Paul, building up – becoming bigger and stronger than what it was when it was originally planted.  As Christians, we are supposed to do the same thing – we are supposed to allow our faith to take root and grow.  Just as a cutting needs sunlight, potting soil, dirt, and a container to grow in, Christians need to read and study their Bible (II Timothy 2:15), attend church services (Hebrews 10:25), prayer for ourselves, our families, and friends (Philippians 4:6, James 5:15-16), and to learn from elder Christians (Titus 4:2-10).  Too many Christians, once they have accepted Jesus as their savior, think that their commitment to their Lord and Savior does not extend beyond that.  This is why there are many Christians that are weak in their spiritual walk; instead of growing in their faith, they return to living like they did before they accepted Jesus Christ as their savior.

WhileI was attending graduate school at Southern Illinois University, I had a neighbor in graduate housing that claimed to be a Christian.  In several conversations we had discussing the role of faith, religion, and academic study, he told me that he had come to the realization that there was no way that most of the Bible was accurate.  He said that from a scholarly point of view, the Judeo-Christian view of marriage, homosexuality, origins of life, and stories of Noah’s ark were all tools designed to control the minds and fears of crowds.  He further stated that he believed in what he referred to as “liberation Christianity” where there were no absolutes and all that mattered was not your relationship with God but how you treated your fellow man.  This thinking is what the apostle Paul warned about in his letter to the church at Colossus Beware lest any man spoil you through philosophy and vain deceit, after the tradition of men, after the rudiments of the world, and not after Christ (Colossians 2:8).  Unfortunately, this man had not known enough of the basics of the teachings of Christ to withstand the false teaching prevalent in the academic world.

Right now in the windowsill of our family’s kitchen, I have two glasses that contains cuttings from plants.  My daughter, who just had her second birthday, loves for me to lift her up so she can look at the plants and the cuttings.  This morning, she noticed the roots that are beginning to appear on the stems of the cuttings of Swedish Ivy, exclaiming “whoa, that?” and then repeating “woots!” after I told her what they were.  As long as I remember this morning’s lesson, of the importance of teaching her about the things of God now while she is young, when she does make the decision to trust in Jesus Christ as her savior, she will not only have a strong foundation to build upon, but will have the ability to look back at the simple lessons taught through our shared enjoyment of caring for houseplants.

Preparing the path of a young person

Son of man, I have made thee a watchman unto the house of Israel: therefore hear the word at my mouth, and give them warning from me (Ezekiel 3:17).

I am not in any way comparing myself or my spiritual calling to that of the Old Testament prophet Ezekiel.  And as a further observation, I am far from the perfect parent; I have made my share of mistakes as a father and as a Christian.  With that said, a combination of my own life experiences while growing up and the past nine years as an adjunct at various community colleges and four-year universities has let me to understand how important it is that Christian parents “get it right” when preparing their children for adulthood.

Earlier this morning I was checking my email and found that a former student of mine had sent an email asking me for some academic and personal advice.  As an adjunct, I cannot formally advise students about their academic career but do offer advice on how to make the most of even the most difficult class.  As far as the personal advice, I do offer it with the understanding that I am coming from a Christian perspective and for the most part, when I tell a student that, it opens the door for them to ask more questions about my faith.  Almost all the students that ask me either for personal advice or to discuss issues of faith were not prepared by their parents to face adulthood; some come from homes a lot like what I grew up in while others come from what they described as a “Christian” home.

One of the most important things that parents do for their children is to Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it, as written by Solomon (Proverbs 22:6).  Nearly ten years ago and while attending a church revival meeting at a small country Baptist church in southeastern Missouri, I heard a preacher twho opened my eyes to the extent it has changed forever my understanding of this verse.  he discussed how parents have given this responsibility – without any reservation – to the lost world!  Unfortunately, he is right.

As Solomon put it, training up a child is about preparing the child for adulthood. It is about teaching them to not only how to work and to be productive, but know themselves, know their relationship with God, and to understand their relationship with others.  Yes, traditional education, which is geared for  productivity and work has been yielded to public institutions to the extent that a majority of parents no longer feel obligated to have an active role in preparing their child for adulthood.  No longer are parents teaching their children a work ethic, occupational skills, religious teachings, or even reaffirmation of academic teachings – it has all been left to the realm of “public education.”

We see the results of this after nearly thirty years of abandonment of this important parental responsibility.  We have families that no longer resemble what God had planned, one in two marriages ending in divorce and children in homes with one parent or even  being raised by grandparents, churches across our nation closing their doors for the last time, and souls not being reached for Jesus.  I can tell you that although many of my 18 to 25 year old college students have been raised in a spiritual vacuum, a few are asking questions about God, faith, and how to fit the belief in God into a “science driven” world.  Yes, there are a few who are hungry to learn about God so they can be ready always to give an answer to every man that asketh you [them] a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear (I Peter 3:15).

Off the cuff: The misleadings of our own understanding

Why should I go to church when it’s full of hypocrites?

In the last six days I have had this statement/question asked of me by two different people.  The first is my eighteen year old daughter; the other is a late twenty-something former student of mine who has kept in contact.  Both are Christians and both young ladies have had difficult lives to say the least.  Both want to do what is right and are looking for the sweet fellowship, support and love from brothers and sisters in Christ that we all need and desire.  Both are members of a church that for various reasons no longer offers that love, support, and fellowship to meet their needs.

Hannah, my eighteen year old daughter, recently told me that she no longer goes to church because the one she was going to is “full of hypocrites.”  She then told me that her pastor had an affair on his wife; for that reason, she was not going back to church but was going to read her Bible at home. She even added that no where in the Bible did it teach that one had to go to church.  She was totally unfamiliar with what the apostle Paul wrote: Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching (Hebrews 10:25).

Monday morning, I ran into my former student at the post office in the town where I live.  As we exchanged pleasantries, she asked me if she could ask me a personal question – she asked what I thought she should do about going to church.  She told me that she did file for divorce in May 2012 from her husband of eleven months.  When she moved back home with her infant daughter, she began attending the church where she grew up.  She had sweet memories of what it was like when she was a child and wanted her daughter to be surrounded by that kind of warmth, support, and love.

Instead, she became an object lesson for her church, was asked not to participate in (or offer support to) certain church ministries.  She was further disheartened when another young woman, divorced since January, was asked to teach a vacation Bible School class; when she asked why the pastor or youth minister why she could not help, she was not told any reason except it was not her place to question the decisions of the church leadership.  She was not angry about it, just deeply hurt.  She told me that she was done with churches since there was obviously a perceived double standard.

As we talked for another ten minutes I was asked how I would have handled the situation – the rejection of service by the leadership of the church.  I shared with her an experience I had in 1996 – I had been married for three years and had been medically discharged from the U.S. Army in March of that year.  My wife left me to move in with her old high school boyfriend, taking my children with her.  At the time, I was the song leader of a small, independent Baptist church and because of what I was going through, I was asked to immediately resign all my positions within the church.  The pastor of the church did tell me why I could no longer serve; I was told that Jesus cannot use divorced people in the ministries of the church!  For the next handful of years I struggled with church attendance, “hypocrisy” of the church, and not trust[ing] in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding (Proverbs 3:5).