Category Archives: Relationships

Blogs in this category deal with relationships between ourselves and God, family members, other Christians, and the lost.

Are you ready for when the weather turns?

 DSCF3056I  have always enjoyed watching the weather – no, not spending hours at a time watching the Weather Channel, but sitting outside and watching as the clouds begin to build and the storm front approaches. Even the most sunny day will give way to an afternoon thunderstorm as temperatures begin to rise sharply ahead of a descending cold front. I’ve never been to a professional weather-spotting class, but I have watched storm fronts developing long enough and in various locations that normally I can have a rough idea what to expect before the storm hits my area. Types of clouds, refraction of sunlight, and the wind actually undergo some changes as the storm approaches and the first rumble of thunder is heard. Needless to say, because of my love of watching the weather, I am rarely caught off guard by the storms when the “weather begins to turn” – a phrase I picked up from living in southwest central Louisiana that describes a change in weather that occurs suddenly.

It wasn’t until a while back ago that I could even remotely see the “storms of faith” or recognize the warning signs of trials and difficulties as they approached. I was often caught off guard by them and for that reason, there were times that the spiritual storm I was facing caught me off guard. Looking back, it wasn’t that the storm suddenly appeared out of nowhere, but that I was not paying attention to what was happening with me, with the ones I was associating with, or even how far I had begun to wonder away from the Lord. Yes, I believe that God does warn us of approaching storms and times of great trials. During His earthly ministry, Jesus even challenged the Scribes and Pharisees: He answered and said unto them, When it is evening, ye say, It will be fair weather: for the sky is red.  And in the morning, It will be foul weather to day: for the sky is red and lowring. O ye hypocrites, ye can discern the face of the sky; but can ye not discern the signs of the times? (Matthew 16:2-3). For much of my life, I believed and as many pastors, Sunday School teachers, and other Christian leaders have taught that this is about the end times. I now believe that not only is Jesus talking about what is yet to come for society but what is yet to come to the individual follower of Christ.

There are times we know when we can expect storms and spiritual difficulties to challenge us. Just as my love of the weather has led me to a better understanding of what to watch for, our love for the Lord Jesus Christ should also give us a better understanding of what we can expect to face. Back when I was pastoring a small church in Rapides Parish, Louisiana, I had an older woman approach me after a Sunday morning service to tell me that her faith in the Lord was so strong that she had never experienced a storm or even a ripple of spiritual difficulties. I will never forget the expression on her face as I asked her the one simple question I ask anyone that tells me this: “Are you sure you’re saved and have completely trusted in Jesus Christ alone as your source of salvation?” It was not out of disrespect for her that I asked this question. It is because as a follower of the Lord Jesus Christ, you will experience times where you will be tested, you will face storms, you will face nights so dark that you’ll begin to question if the Lord is still there. Satan loves to discourage Christians, our pains and our fears are reasons for his rejoicing especially when we become ineffective for Christ and unable to tell others about His love for us.

We can expect to face a spiritual storm when we continue to dwell in sin. I can actually and unfortunately speak from experience here. Earlier in my Christian walk and before I began to take my faith more seriously, I held on to the sins that I had enjoyed before I became a Christian. I often used the excuse that “God understands that I am only human” and with a less-than-heartfelt and sincere apology, I continued to live within those sins. Looking back at my life before 2006, I was overdue for a spiritual storm. I had ignored the pleadings and later warnings of the Holy Spirit. I had all but ignored the advice offered by God through the Bible. As a child of God, when we no longer are listening to the reasoning and the pleadings of the Holy Spirit, God has no other choice but to use a spiritual storm to get our attention. Even the apostle Paul understood this and provided us this warning and explanation: For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth (Hebrews 12:6). If I were to continue in sin and in disobedience and not experience the loving and corrective hand of the Lord, then I would not be one of His children.

The second type of storm we all face is what I call the “spiritual growth storm” because it normally comes right before or after a leap in our spiritual growth process. These storms come to test our resolve in remaining faithful to God. These storms come to teach us; David, the psalmist and king wrote, Examine me, O LORD, and prove me; try my reins and my heart (Psalms 26:2) and that is exactly what these storms are, God proving the reigns of our hearts. It’s not for His benefit that He does this, but because He wants us to see our progress, or in some cases, lack of progress. He wants us to see that our faith has grown, where we still need to seek His help, and that we can always depend on Him no matter how long the night seems or how dark it gets. Even the prophet Jeremiah understood this and was led by the Holy Spirit to write, I the LORD search the heart, I try the reins, even to give every man according to his ways, and according to the fruit of his doings (Jeremiah 17:10).

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Hints on finding a good church

churchLittle did I know when I gave my life to the Lord Jesus Christ in 1988 that I would spend the next twenty years moving around the country. From 1989 to 1996, most of my moves were related military service and from 1999 through 2011, the moves have been job related. During that time, I have moved nearly twelve times.  One of the first things I would do after a move was to try to find a good church home. At first, I had a very simple way of choosing churches that didn’t always work, but over time I discovered that there were things that I could look for in the churches I visited to help me find a good church home. While these may not work for everyone, these things have helped me find good church homes where I had opportunities to serve, to spiritually grow, and make some life-long friendships with other believers.

Church attendance is really that important. The apostle Paul wrote, Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching (Hebrews 10:25) as guidance to the importance of church attendance and fellowship. He also strongly suggested the importance of church membership in describing how the local New Testament church is similar to a body: For as the body is one, and hath many members, and all the members of that one body, being many, are one body: so also is Christ. For by one Spirit are we all baptized into one body, whether we be Jews or Gentiles, whether we be bond or free; and have been all made to drink into one Spirit. For the body is not one member, but many. If the foot shall say, Because I am not the hand, I am not of the body; is it therefore not of the body? And if the ear shall say, Because I am not the eye, I am not of the body; is it therefore not of the body? If the whole body were an eye, where were the hearing? If the whole were hearing, where were the smelling? But now hath God set the members every one of them in the body, as it hath pleased him. And if they were all one member, where were the body? But now are they many members, yet but one body (I Corinthians 12:12-20). Just as we do not see tribes of fingers or toes living separate lives apart from the body, God never intended Christians to exist in isolation from other Christians.  Church membership provides the believer a place to belong, a function and duties to do, and a body to give the spiritual support and encouragement to face the trials, temptations, and hardships of the world.

Never join a church on the first visit. This sounds almost too simple to be true, but yes, I had to learn this lesson the hard way.  Being a young Christian, I believed that the first church I visited was the one that I was being led to by the Holy Spirit rather than simply coming across their name first. While it is right and in my opinion necessary and proper for a Christian to be a member of a local church, it does not mean that you must join the first church you visit.  Not all churches are the same, even if they are in the same denomination.  What I learned and works for me is to make at least six visits to the church before I make the decision to join.  I attend as many of the prospective church’s services as they have and my schedule allows me to attend – this includes Sunday morning and evening services, Sunday School, Wednesday night service, and any special event that occurs during the time I am visiting.  The reason for this is because you can really get a sense about the spiritual growth and standing of a church on what the church is doing.  

As a Christian, I want to attend a church that is not only doctrinally sound, but is also going to be able to help me grow as a man and as a Christian.  I do not want to be a member of a “show church” where the spirituality and fellowship is fake. Unfortunately, any church can put on a good show for Sunday morning service. During the evening and Wednesday night services, when the core membership attends, is where you are going to discover the nature of the church.  You’ll quickly learn if the hospitality was genuine, if their warmth was real, and if they truly strive to serve the Lord.  

Set out to visit churches with the expressed purpose to learn about their faith. Being a Baptist, when I was a much younger and naïve Christian, I assumed that any church that had “Baptist” in the title would be a good choice. What I found out is that there are as many different Baptist churches as Baskin-Robbins has ice cream flavors. I quickly learned the importance of having a relatively open mind about the non-doctrinal differences of the various churches.  So what if they have their AM worship service before the Sunday School classes?  Who cares that they do not have a regular choir or use a certain hymnal, or even have Sunday School classes the way the last church did?  These are minor things, and while may seem strange to a visitor, actually serve the needs of that particular congregation. What is important are the bigger issues – does the pastor or preacher teach sound doctrine? Does the congregation’s attitudes towards visitors show the love of the Lord Jesus Christ? Are a majority of the members sincere in their devotion to the Lord Jesus Christ and their Christian faith? When choosing a church to join it is more important to join a local church that will encourage spiritual growth more so than one that simply makes you feel good to attend.   

For me, I need hard Bible preaching and teaching. I need to hear about the importance of continuing the fight against the flesh and resisting the temptations of the devil. I’ve attended churches that made me feel good, only to discover that there was little to no spiritual growth in my life and I know that there are many that read this blog that also have had similar experiences.  It is not from the comfort of a church pew and soft feel-good sermons that brings about spiritual maturity.  It is the Holy Spirit, through personal Bible study, prayer, Christian fellowship, and strong preaching of the Word of God that prepares us for spiritual growth.

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A brief biblical study in mankind’s free will

mens-bible-studyThis devotional actually began as a conversation I had with a former student of mine on Facebook. Being a third year college student, his major required him to take a course in psychology where the nature of free will was discussed.  In one of the lectures, he became bothered by the professor’s insistence that “free will” of the person does not exist in most religions, including Christianity.  Sadly, the professor began to expound on various doctrines held by some of the various denominations that supported his viewpoint.  What is even worse is that the professor would not allow any other discussion on the matter or allow any student to offer a counter argument. When the lecture ended, the professor had succeeded in assuring that his humanist-based argument against all religion stood strong.

In truth, God created humankind – Adam and Eve – to have free will and to be able to exercise it.  Within the first three chapters of Genesis, this free will is demonstrated through the story of the fall of man. Although God had commanded Adam and Eve not to eat of the forbidden fruit, there was no obstacle placed in their way. There was no angel standing guard, there was no force field, or even a canyon that surrounded the Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil. Adam and Eve could freely walk under its shade, could enjoy the fragrance of its blossoms, but were told not to eat of it. The tree, and all that was in the garden were fully accessible to Adam and Eve and would stay that way until man willfully chose the path of disobedience. It is after the fruit is eaten and God’s judgment pronounced where it is recorded in the third chapter of Genesis: And the LORD God said, Behold, the man is become as one of us, to know good and evil: and now, lest he put forth his hand, and take also of the tree of life, and eat, and live for ever: Therefore the LORD God sent him forth from the garden of Eden, to till the ground from whence he was taken. So he drove out the man; and he placed at the east of the garden of Eden Cherubims, and a flaming sword which turned every way, to keep the way of the tree of life (Genesis 3:22-24).

Job also questioned the free will of man.  As he was in the midst of his trials, he asked, Why is light given to a man whose way is hid, and whom God hath hedged in? (Job 3:23). Unlike Greek and Roman mythology that teaches that all mortals are at the whims of a pantheon of gods and goddesses whom change the fates of men and women to suit their own passions, our God is one that gave us the ability to make our own choices. We are not given some maze to run, but are told by the Lord, I call heaven and earth to record this day against you, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing: therefore choose life, that both thou and thy seed may live (Deuteronomy 30:19). Our salvation all rests on our decision, for God’s invitation is extended to everyone regardless of their personal history, nationality, race, sex, or any other artificial construct society creates: For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life (John 3:16). God doesn’t hedge anyone in to make the “right” decision – the most basic decision, to accept the Lord Jesus Christ as your personal savior is yours to make. God wants us to love him out of our free will, not because we feel that we must.

There are plenty of scriptures that teach that God offers mankind a choice. Even within the writings of the prophets, God still  calls out to man, offering the best that He has that awaits all who will choose to accept and to love Him: Ho, every one that thirsteth, come ye to the waters, and he that hath no money; come ye, buy, and eat; yea, come, buy wine and milk without money and without price (Isaiah 55:1). In other words, God is saying that if we choose Him, the best awaits us without price to us. While we may enjoy some of those blessings here, the best is yet to come once we are in Heaven with Him. It is the same concept that Jesus taught, as recorded in the gospel of Matthew: Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light (Matthew 11:28-30). The beautiful thing about our free choice is that when we answer God’s call and accept His offer, He puts no other condition.  During His earthly ministry, Jesus taught: All that the Father giveth me shall come to me; and him that cometh to me I will in no wise cast out (John 6:37). Notice the concept in both passages – “come to me” – is the only requirement.  It doesn’t say we must come or is it even a commandment to come. It is an invitation to come to the Lord much like one would get to join a family member or a friend for an evening out. Our salvation is dependent upon our free will. We have the choice to accept or reject; to choose death or choose life.

Within the early church, this was taught by the apostles;  Peter told all that would listen to him in those days, And it shall come to pass, that whosoever shall call on the name of the Lord shall be saved (Acts 2:21). Again, contrary to the claims of the Calvinists (those who believe that only certain people are predestined for Heaven) and humanist alike, this contradicts the central belief of both philosophies. The phrase “whosoever shall call” indicated that only those who call upon the Lord will be saved. While God did make the first invitation that all people could be saved through faith in Him, only those who choose to accept the offer will actually be saved.  It is the free will of the person that determines their eternal relationship with God. The final proof of the role in free will in salvation can be found in the book of Revelation: And the Spirit and the bride say, Come. And let him that heareth say, Come. And let him that is athirst come. And whosoever will, let him take the water of life freely (Revelation 22:17). Again, the invitation to all people has been extended, again, the hand of God reaches out and says “Come.” It is up to the person to either accept or reject the invitation.