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Grace or the Law? God’s plan has always been grace

torahSince Wednesday of last week, there has been a constant theme that has run through my personal devotions, Sunday school, and a couple of Facebook messenger conversations – the wonder of God’s grace. Let me begin this devotional by saying that I have matured a lot in my walk with the Lord Jesus Christ, but I have a long way to go. There are areas where I still need to grow and I have faith in the abilities of God that He will craft me and mold me into the man who He has called me to be.  While I am not a perfect man, I am not the man who I was even five years ago. When I was at a marketing training seminar for a non-profit organization, one of the speakers made a profound statement that has a spiritual application: if you’re not growing, you’re in the process of dying.

The Law brings about death; even the apostle Paul warned about weight of the Law that so many people seek to put themselves and others in: The sting of death is sin; and the strength of sin is the law (I Corinthians 15:56) and if that was not a strong enough, the apostle James wrote, For whosoever shall keep the whole law, and yet offend in one point, he is guilty of all (James 2:10).  So, even if one could keep the Law without offending even the finest points of it, Paul also wrote Christ is become of no effect unto you, whosoever of you are justified by the law; ye are fallen from grace (Galatians 5:4). What Paul is saying is that if we try to live according to the Law we are actually choosing to be judged according to the Law and not salvation through faith in the Lord Jesus Christ. Again, looking to the writings and teachings of Paul, Therefore by the deeds of the law there shall no flesh be justified in his sight: for by the law is the knowledge of sin (Romans). Paul even reiterated this in a letter to the early Christians at Galatia: Knowing that a man is not justified by the works of the law, but by the faith of Jesus Christ, even we have believed in Jesus Christ, that we might be justified by the faith of Christ, and not by the works of the law: for by the works of the law shall no flesh be justified (Galatians 2:16).

During a conversation last week, the topic came up about obedience and salvation; the person I was talking with actually claimed that he did not believe that someone can be saved if they are not tithing, as tithing is required in both the Old and New Testaments.  While I do believe that the giving of tithes and offering are an important part of our obedience to the Lord, I always get a little angry when the focus is placed on the tithe, being 1/10th of a Christian’s income and not on where God places the emphasis – out of the proper “heartset” of humbleness, joy, and willingly giving to the Lord.  From the second book of the Old Testament, God’s desire is our giving be out of a willing heart than out of feeling duty-bound: Take ye from among you an offering unto the LORD: whosoever is of a willing heart, let him bring it, an offering of the LORD; gold, and silver, and brass (Exodus 35:5). Paul wrote along similar lines to the early Christians at the church in Corinth: Every man according as he purposeth in his heart, so let him give; not grudgingly, or of necessity: for God loveth a cheerful giver (II Corinthians 9:7). God’s plan has never changed, it is not the amount that is placed in the offering plate but it is the attitude that’s in the believer’s heart that actually matters to the Lord. 

God places the importance on the attitude of the giver and not on the size of the tithes and offerings.  Through the guidance of the Holy Spirit, the prophet Micah wrote: Wherewith shall I come before the LORD, and bow myself before the high God? shall I come before him with burnt offerings, with calves of a year old? Will the LORD be pleased with thousands of rams, or with ten thousands of rivers of oil? shall I give my firstborn for my transgression, the fruit of my body for the sin of my soul? He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the LORD require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God? (Micah 6:6-8). Our obedience out of a willing and eager heart is what God truly desires.  King Saul, in all his strength, power, and understanding had to learn this lesson the hard way.  After being told to utterly destroy the Amalekites and not to take any prisoners or spoils, Saul captured their king and brought back tremendous wealth and justified his actions by telling Samuel that he was going to offer all the spoils to the Lord. And Samuel said, Hath the LORD as great delight in burnt offering and sacrifices, as in obeying the voice of the LORD?  Behold, to obey is better than sacrifice, and to hearken than the fat of rams (I Samuel 15:22). The Lord would rather have our obedience out of a willing and cheerful heart than to offer anything based on disobedience or from a heart whose giving is only from adherence to the letter of the Law.

Within the life and earthly ministry of the Lord Jesus there is a story recorded in the gospel of Luke that illustrates this teaching clearly.  As Jesus was at the doors of the temple in Jerusalem teaching those who had come to listen, he saw a group of men placing their tithes and offerings into the temple’s treasury. As they passed by, an old widow came in and placed two mites, basically two Roman pennies, into the  same area where the men had just tossed their offerings.  Luke records: And he looked up, and saw the rich men casting their gifts into the treasury. And he saw also a certain poor widow casting in thither two mites. And he said, Of a truth I say unto you, that this poor widow hath cast in more than they all: For all these have of their abundance cast in unto the offerings of God: but she of her penury hath cast in all the living that she had (Luke 21:1-4). Now the Bible does not tell us if they were Pharisees or Scribes, but it does shed light on the woman’s gift.  It was not the amount of money she placed in the treasury that caused her to become a part of the Bible’s narrative, but the condition of her heart as she placed two pennies into the temple treasury.  She gave out of a willing heart that simply wanted to honor the Lord.  The men that were before her probably gave their tithe of 1/10th of their increase and probably gave above that (which is considered an offering), but they gave out of their abundance and out of an adherence to the Law and not out of their faith or love for the Lord. It was by the grace of God alone that her giving was seen as being of more spiritual value than the financial value of the giving of the men before her. 

It really is that simple as the old woman found out; want to see the grace of God in your life?  Want to see Him honor what you’re able to do for and give Him? Then whatever it is that you do or give, make sure your heart is doing it for the right reason. God would rather have you give and do willingly and out of love than to have you to do anything because you feel its required.

When and why our “message” fails

chinese-funny_4815415285841931A while back ago, I saw this picture on Facebook and actually had a pretty good laugh.  This Chinese restaurant’s name is OK Chinese Food, and you can probably rest assured that there are many people who have also laughed at this failed message.  When I was on temporary duty in South Korea back in the ’90s, I learned that when Koreans used that phrase, for them, it didn’t mean average or just enough to get by, but they meant it as something that was good.  My South Korean counterpart even told me that the phrase, “OK” had been adopted by the South Korean culture over time in their efforts to understand and communicate with the American military stationed in South Korea.

I would probably guess that the Chinese family that named this restaurant meant OK in the exact same way as the South Koreans do. I am sure that if they understood that most Americans see OK as being average or enough to get by, they would have chosen to use a different word to describe their cuisine.  No restaurant owner wants to advertise that their food is average or just enough to pass the health inspectors.  This is an example of a failed message that does not convey the meaning that the owners desired.  This morning I was thinking about the messages that everyone sends out just doing our everyday things. Whether we are at work, at the marketplace, the post office, gym, or even just doing things around the house, everything we do sends a message to others. We send a message in the way we are dressed, the way we act, the way we speak, and even in the way we interact with others whom we come into contact.  This is one of the reasons I believe that the Holy Spirit led James to write But be ye doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving your own selves (James 1:22).

What message do we send to others around us?  I know that as I have begun to mature in my faith that I have become more aware of the message I project.  A few years back, I attended a church that had a very active soul winning program. I was also attending college in Louisiana and I often wondered why people never really took me seriously about my faith.  While I didn’t have the answer then, looking back now, I do – I was sending out a wrong message. I was proclaiming Jesus as my Lord and Savior, yet was continuing to live a life dominated by the flesh. Any message we send out about our faith must be a clear, uncluttered, and focused message. We can only do this through allowing Jesus to have complete lordship over our lives. Even the Lord Jesus Christ taught, And why call ye me, Lord, Lord, and do not the things which I say? Whosoever cometh to me, and heareth my sayings, and doeth them, I will shew you to whom he is like: He is like a man which built an house, and digged deep, and laid the foundation on a rock: and when the flood arose, the stream beat vehemently upon that house, and could not shake it: for it was founded upon a rock (Luke 6:46-48). Think about the application of this parable – if we live the kind of life that God calls us to, we will be sending out a clear, understandable message free from confusion.

When storms come, I have always seen people flee to relatives who have sturdy, well-built homes to ride out the storms; I’ve never seen people flee to relatives living in a trailer house to ride out storms. Do you want to be able to lead your family and friends to the Lord?  Want to be able to share the gospel of the Lord with your children or grandchildren? You cannot send out mixed messages.  You cannot say you love Jesus and continue to live a life that sends the opposite message out. But he that heareth, and doeth not, is like a man that without a foundation built an house upon the earth; against which the stream did beat vehemently, and immediately it fell; and the ruin of that house was great (Luke 6:49). Just as the first part of the parable has a powerful application, so does this verse.  When our message is unclear, garbled, and confused, we are not an effective witness for the Lord Jesus Christ.  When people are in crisis, they do not want someone who is no more stable than they, they want someone who has their life grounded on a firm foundation.

As I mentioned before, I love travelling.  While driving, I love listening to talk radio and at night, I find AM radio stations.  It has always amazed me that as I am driving through northern Louisiana or Mississippi how I can pick up stations as far away as Chicago, New York, El Paso, and even Montreal.  Normally, I do not station surf, but will listen until the station begins to become overlapped by other stations.  At that point, its hard to listen to the original station I was listening to as the signal becomes distorted, garbled, and the programming begins to overlap.  It becomes a great picture of why the Lord tells us But let your communication be, Yea, yea; Nay, nay: for whatsoever is more than these cometh of evil (Matthew 5:37) and why he also stated,  No servant can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve God and mammon (Luke 16:13). Just as my car radio picks up garbled messages, when we don’t do our very best to send a clear message about Christ with our very being, we are sending a message that gets received and causes confusion for all who hear it.

I believe that James was led to write, For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work (James 3:16) and Paul writes, For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace, as in all churches of the saints (I Corinthians 14:33). When we begin to allow Jesus to have complete lordship over our lives and we begin to live up to the standards that He has set for us, we will send out the message that we need to send and it will be understood by those that need to hear of the love of God.  We will become like the wise man who built his house upon the rock and be able to bear witness of the greatness of God.  We can’t even begin to do that as long as we’re transmitting the wrong message.

In times of unrest, examine yourself and pray

WartenWe’ve all experienced times in our lives where we become disappointed, anxious, and on edge.  In the mornings, instead of waking up feeling refreshed and ready to start another day, we see mountains that wait before us, forests that obstruct our views, and valleys we know we’re going to have to walk through.  At night, we toss and turn with various scenarios that fill our imagination; all focused on what we are currently experiencing.  These days and nights adds to the unrest as it begins to settle into what feels like our very souls.  There is not one person on this Earth that has not experienced days and nights like this.

Within the Old Testament, there are several verses that deal with this very topic of spiritual unrest.  Within the book of Deuteronomy, there’s a verse that describes the attitude that so many of us have during times such as those: In the morning thou shalt say, Would God it were even! and at even thou shalt say, Would God it were morning! for the fear of thine heart wherewith thou shalt fear, and for the sight of thine eyes which thou shalt see (Deuteronomy 28:67).   In this verse, God is warning the children of Israel that if they forsake Him, there will be judgment and a spiritual unrest will arise out of it unless they remain faithful.  I admit that there have been more than a few days where I have wished it was already night, just to toss and turn and later wishing for the night to end.  Even Job, during the midst of the trial he faced said: Is there not an appointed time to man upon earth? are not his days also like the days of an hireling? As a servant earnestly desireth the shadow, and as an hireling looketh for the reward of his work: So am I made to possess months of vanity, and wearisome nights are appointed to me. When I lie down, I say, When shall I arise, and the night be gone? and I am full of tossings to and fro unto the dawning of the day (Job 7:1-4).

David also faced his days and nights of unrest and describes what so many of us have experienced so well: I am troubled; I am bowed down greatly; I go mourning all the day long. For my loins are filled with a loathsome disease: and there is no soundness in my flesh. I am feeble and sore broken: I have roared by reason of the disquietness of my heart. Lord, all my desire is before thee; and my groaning is not hid from thee (Psalms 38:6-9). There are times when the hardest thing is to face our unrest, to try and learn its source, and overcome it. Even Christians have taken solace in the “cures” of the world that includes frivolous shopping, drugs, alcohol, risky behaviors, and even suicide to find relieve life’s weariness.  Sadly, many of us are so busy with the things in our own lives that we have forgotten about those in our families and our church congregations that are emotionally hurting, weary, and in a state of general unrest. If they are Christians, something has happened to change the sweet relationship they had with the Lord Jesus Christ; if they are lost, they are looking for the peace that only Jesus can bring to a life shattered and out of control. Saved or unsaved, the answer is Jesus.

Often times when we feel these periods of unrest, we fail to consider the complete situation around us.  Many of us look beyond our own participation in the events that led us to the point where we begin to wish our life away. Looking earlier in the chapter of Psalms already quoted, David wrote:  For thine arrows stick fast in me, and thy hand presseth me sore. There is no soundness in my flesh because of thine anger; neither is there any rest in my bones because of my sin. For mine iniquities are gone over mine head: as an heavy burden they are too heavy for me. My wounds stink and are corrupt because of my foolishness (Psalms 38:2-5). In quiet reflection and prayer to God, David was not afraid to examine his life in search of the cause of his spiritual unrest.  Like us, most of David’s spiritual unrest came as a result of his own sin.

If I am honest with myself, the many times I have experienced the feelings of unrest, disappointment, or even dissatisfaction that have been the result of sin. Things like our own impatience, the getting of things that we have lusted or coveted after, or the expectation of getting something that’s “owed” to us all are all in direct opposition to how we should actually be as followers of Christ. David understood this and is why he encourages all to Wait on the LORD: be of good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart: wait, I say, on the LORD (Psalms 27:14) and Wait on the LORD, and keep his way, and he shall exalt thee to inherit the land: when the wicked are cut off, thou shalt see it (Psalms 37:34). In my life almost all my spiritual unrest has come as the result of me not waiting upon the Lord and realizing that I had made mistakes after I had done them.

In reality, we can avoid the feelings of unrest, disappointment, and dissatisfaction if we will simply turn to the Lord. If we take time to remember the writings of Solomon, he actually provides one of the best antidotes to those feelings: Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding (Proverbs 3:5). Whatever it is, when we place it in God’s hands, we can be sure that He will not only take care of us but He will also use it for His glory so that He will draw others to Him. As David learned, It is better to trust in the LORD than to put confidence in princes (Psalms 118:9); want to sow the seeds of disappointment, unrest, and dissatisfaction?  Place your cares and concerns in anything or anyone but the Lord.  Ignore the advice and simple truths found in scripture; It is better to trust in the LORD than to put confidence in man (Psalms 118:8). Yes, we have to depend on others such as our spouses, parents, children, coworkers, bosses, and friends; however, when we place all of our hopes, trusts and happiness in these people, we are setting ourselves up for disappointment, discontentment, and unrest. There is a peace that we get from placing our complete trust and faith in God: Ye that fear the LORD, trust in the LORD: he is their help and their shield (Psalms 115:11).