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Don’t be unprepared; look at the forecast

6a0148c78b79ee970c017743a96d12970d-800wiNo matter how big our plans are we all have a tendency to check the local forecast before we head out to work, school, or even a family vacation.  We want to be ready for whatever the weather might bring for that day.   We want to know whether to pack for warm temperatures or for cold; we want to know if we need to worry about rain or take sunscreen for those bright sunny days.  With the development of smart phones, some of us have even begun to check the weather nearly every hour out of the sheer need to know everything that might affect us later that day.  Over the last fifteen years, there has even been a cable channel, The Weather Channel, that devotes a 24 hour cycle of the latest weather prediction for the local area.  With all our changes in technology, we still are amazed when we see the stories of people caught off guard by storms.  In fact, I even had someone tell me they found it nearly impossible to believe that so many people can be caught unprepared for what the weather may bring.

Each of us have had some rough times in our lives.  We all carry the scars of various storms of life that we really were not prepared to handle.  Although we like to think of ourselves as intelligent and well-prepared, we rarely stop to think about the consequences of our actions and the very storms that threaten to overtake us are actually the ones we set into motion.  The Bible contains a warning for us today as God warned Cain all those years ago: If thou doest well, shalt thou not be accepted? and if thou doest not well, sin lieth at the door (Genesis 4:7a). This advice, or forecast, that God gave Cain is the same advice He offers us today – take the time to carefully consider what you are about to do. While I have heard many preachers and messages on Cain and him being the first murderer, he also has another distinction – he is the third person that the Bible records acted on impulse and emotions rather than by following God’s plan or contemplating his choices.  Simply put, Cain was the author of the storm that would overcome him; he was the source of the emotional hurricane that would wreck his life.

It is not natural for our flesh to think about the consequences of our actions. None of us have ever made every decision in our life with careful contemplation about what the final outcome may be.  When God had sent out the prophets throughout Israel and Judah to try to warn them of the pending judgment of God to come, the Holy Spirit led the prophet Haggai to write: Now therefore thus saith the LORD of hosts; Consider your ways (Haggai 1:5). God warned Israel and Judah through the prophet Isaiah: For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the LORD. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts (Isaiah 55:8-9). Even as Christians, we see ourselves and our lives through a flesh-tainted world view.  Even as Christians, many of the storms and difficulties we face are put into motion by our tendencies to act first before we consider the consequences or what God’s will may be for us.  God even lamented during the exodus of Israel, O that they were wise, that they understood this, that they would consider their latter end! (Deuteronomy 32:29).

There are some storms and difficulties we face that are not the result of our own decisions or actions.  We also know people who fall into this category that have experienced the death of a loved one, a job loss as the economy has deteriorated, or any number of other issues.  Job did not ask for his storm either, yet the storm came anyway.  The decisions we make during these times can also have consequences that shape our future.  Within the life of Job, as told by the book that bears his name, there were two choices offered.  His wife felt that he had nothing else to live for;  Then said his wife unto him, Dost thou still retain thine integrity? curse God, and die (Job 2:9). Yes, he would lose all his children, his wife, and his earthly wealth but he never lost his faith in God.  While he did begin to question God, he never lost sight that God was in control.  During the earthly ministry of Jesus, He mentioned two men, one that built his house upon the sand and the other who built his house upon the rock.  I have often wondered if the Lord Jesus Christ thought of His servant Job as he taught He is like a man which built an house, and digged deep, and laid the foundation on a rock: and when the flood arose, the stream beat vehemently upon that house, and could not shake it: for it was founded upon a rock (Luke 6:48).

When Jesus taught that about building on the foundation of the rock, He was essentially telling all who would listen to prepare for the storms that are approaching.  It’s too late to prepare for the storms when you hear the thunder. It’s too late to seek Godly counsel about a decision you’ve made after you’ve already acted on your own (although it is never too late to repent and seek forgiveness for a bad decision and ask for wisdom to do what is right from that point forward). Whatever issue you face, whatever temptation is at your door, whatever decision you must make, God wants you to consider the consequences for what course you choose. Check the forecast and know what waits ahead.

Real faith or going through the motions

going-thru-motionsAs many of you know, I do mention the spiritual revival I had in 2006 quite often.  It is not because I am proud of what I did back then, but because I am amazed at the long-suffering, guidance, concern, and kindness of God for me. In 2006, while facing some real spiritual battles and going through my Ph.D. program, I came across three verses that would change my life: But if from thence thou shalt seek the LORD thy God, thou shalt find him, if thou seek him with all thy heart and with all thy soul (Deuteronomy 4:29),  Sow to yourselves in righteousness, reap in mercy; break up your fallow ground: for it is time to seek the LORD, till he come and rain righteousness upon you (Hosea 10:12), and That they should seek the Lord, if haply they might feel after him, and find him, though he be not far from every one of us (Acts 17:27).

Although I had prided myself in reading the Bible through twice each year in the past, I never really had a verse – or verses – grab hold of my mind as much as these three did. Even as I tried to continue my Bible reading, I always kept coming across other verses that were tied somehow to those three.  Then one evening, I came across a couple of more verses: In those days, and in that time, saith the LORD, the children of Israel shall come, they and the children of Judah together, going and weeping: they shall go, and seek the LORD their God (Jeremiah 50:4) and When thou saidst, Seek ye my face; my heart said unto thee, Thy face, LORD, will I seek (Psalms 27:8). I decided that I would begin to seriously study those verses and that particular theme of seeking the Lord as I had studied various historical events, authors, books, and other writings as a part of my college education.  Within a month, I fell under conviction that my faith was not being guided by my dependence upon the Holy Spirit but simply, for the lack of a better explanation, by me going through the motions.

We all know what it means to simply go through the motions.  Whether it is in our workplace, our marriage and friendships, or even our spiritual walk, at some time we are all guilty of doing things without any investment of ourselves.  As a result, our work becomes unrewarding, our marriages and friendships become hollow and lacking, and our spiritual walk withers. I was not experiencing any joy in my walk with Christ.  Going to church and reading my Bible daily had become a part of my normal routine and I actually patted myself on the back for my faithfulness to both; however, my heart was not into either. My spiritual health had become anemic. God had tried to get my attention refocused through the trials I was going through and when I was too blind to see that, He began using what I was doing – reading my Bible daily – to speak directly to my soul.  It was through His word that He offers us a great invitation: Come now, and let us reason together, saith the LORD: though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool (Isaiah 1:18).

In a way, Jesus warns us about going through the motions; during his earthly ministry, He was teaching the disciples about prayer when he said: But when ye pray, use not vain repetitions, as the heathen do: for they think that they shall be heard for their much speaking (Matthew 6:7). Now this verse warns about praying using vain repetitions – going through the motions when we pray.  Yes, we are praying, but we are not emotionally or spiritually invested in our prayers. The apostle Paul even wrote on this very topic, warning the Christians at the church in Colossus: Servants, obey in all things your masters according to the flesh; not with eyeservice, as menpleasers; but in singleness of heart, fearing God: And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men (Colossians 3:22-23). The terms “eyeservice” and “menpleasers” simply refer to going through the motions to meet the expectations of others.  This is not the only time that Paul warns against this: Not with eyeservice, as menpleasers; but as the servants of Christ, doing the will of God from the heart; With good will doing service, as to the Lord, and not to men: Knowing that whatsoever good thing any man doeth, the same shall he receive of the Lord, whether he be bond or free (Ephesians 6:6-8).

Both the teachings of Jesus and Paul show us the dangers of when we go through the motions. Not only are they not rewarding or fulfilling, but they also do not reap any real spiritual fruit.  We all know people who can quote the Lord’s Prayer forwards and backwards, yet there is no true peace, joy, and hope that only the Lord can bring.  We all know people who attend church each time the doors are opened yet their spiritual life is in disarray, there is little spiritual growth, and they do not experience the real joy that Christ can bring even into the most shattered life.  From 1988 to 2006, my spiritual life was living up to the expectations that I thought others, including God, had set for me.  I do not mean that every time I went to church or prayed it was for the benefit of others, but there were many times when my worship was less than sincere, my prayers not from the heart, and even my personal evangelism was because it was expected that I do them and not because of me doing them out of a cheerful heart and with an attitude of joy and love.

I do not know when it first began, but over time it grew to all areas of my faith. Soon, I began reading the Bible just because it was something Christians did.  Not only was I doing this in my spiritual walk, I was also doing the same thing in my marriage, my relationship with my children, and even while going to graduate school and my job.  I was simply living day-to-day, task by task, and going through the motions in everything I did.  No longer did I enjoy the richness of my faith, but my faith became increasingly hollow and joyless. Looking back at those days, I am glad that God woke me from the mental and spiritual sleep that I had settled in. I am glad that He rekindled my passion for Him, that he gave me purpose and desire to be all that He has called me to be. Since 2006, the Lord has done some remarkable things in my life when I decided to quit going through the motions and decided to put my heart into everything that I did. If God can do that for me, he can certainly do it for you; no longer just go through the motions, but put your heart, soul, and mind behind everything you do. Live your life for Christ, and not for those around you.

A life that is sweet smelling to the Lord

P1000764For the last few mornings, I have begun to get back into my routine of the morning walk.  Before the cold weather set in December, I was walking each morning at a pace between 3 and 3½ miles an hour for about an hour each morning.  At first, it was difficult to get started but just like anything else, it did get to the point where my mornings did not feel complete unless I had done my walk.  With the return of warmer weather, I am now determined to not only increase my pace but to increase the number of miles walked each morning.

It’s actually peaceful in Henderson between 5:30 and 6:30 in the morning. I love listening to southern gospel music while I walk; this morning a song by the group Heaven Bound came on, Can the world see Jesus in you. After listening to the song, I took out my headphones and paused the music.  I felt the need to spend a few minutes in prayer while on my walk. This is nothing new, as I usually spend twenty to thirty minutes in prayer while walking.  There are mornings that I have prayed just to be able to make it back home before passing out, or praying for the needs of the various families in our church.  This morning, I needed to pray about some things in my life.  For those of you who are regular readers, you know that there are things in my past that I am not too proud of.  I have been twice divorced; I failed as a father with the children of my first marriage. When I first accepted the Lord Jesus Christ as my savior in 1988, I didn’t spiritually mature and continued to make decisions based upon the flesh.  I did not become serious about my faith in God or what it meant until 2006.  Since then, I have come to appreciate my salvation and its high cost.  I have become more aware of the fighting of my flesh against the Holy Spirit of God.

As I was praying for guidance, I passed a fence where honeysuckles had nearly completely covered the post and the corner. The fragrance that the flowers gave off could be smelled from about half a block away.  It did get me thinking and wondering if my life, in the eyes of God, smelled as beautiful as those honeysuckles did.  The apostle Paul wrote: And walk in love, as Christ also hath loved us, and hath given himself for us an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweetsmelling savour (Ephesians 5:2).  As this verse came to mind, I began to think that when God looks down at my life He sees the blood of Christ that covers my sins.  Just as the Old Testament sin offerings were said to offer up a sweet savour to the Lord, so has the blood of Christ done that for the life of every believer.  I also thought about another passage: Now thanks be unto God, which always causeth us to triumph in Christ, and maketh manifest the savour of his knowledge by us in every place. For we are unto God a sweet savour of Christ, in them that are saved, and in them that perish: To the one we are the savour of death unto death; and to the other the savour of life unto life. And who is sufficient for these things? (II Corinthians 2:14-16). Again the apostle Paul is not only saying that God does smell the sweet savor of Christ’s sacrifice on all who have accepted salvation that only Christ can bring, but just as the breeze this morning carried the fragrance of the honeysuckles, our lives can spread the sweet savor of Christ’s sacrifice just by sharing the gospel with others.

The apostle Paul also taught through his writings that the very things Christ has instructed us to do can become a source of sweet savor to God as long as our hearts are right: For even in Thessalonica ye sent once and again unto my necessity. Not because I desire a gift: but I desire fruit that may abound to your account. But I have all, and abound: I am full, having received of Epaphroditus the things which were sent from you, an odour of a sweet smell, a sacrifice acceptable, wellpleasing to God. But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus (Philippians 16-19). While Paul is commending the Christians at the church at Philippi for providing for his needs while at Thessalonica, he praises them that their sacrifice in supporting him was a sweet-smelling savor.

During the earthly ministry of Jesus, he shared this teaching: Then shall the King say unto them on his right hand, Come, ye blessed of my Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world: For I was an hungred, and ye gave me meat: I was thirsty, and ye gave me drink: I was a stranger, and ye took me in: Naked, and ye clothed me: I was sick, and ye visited me: I was in prison, and ye came unto me. Then shall the righteous answer him, saying, Lord, when saw we thee an hungred, and fed thee? or thirsty, and gave thee drink? When saw we thee a stranger, and took thee in? or naked, and clothed thee? Or when saw we thee sick, or in prison, and came unto thee? And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me. (Matthew 25:34-40). When we do these things with the right heart, I do believe in the spirit of the teachings of the apostle Paul, that God also smells a sweet savor simply because we showed others mercy and love which in itself is a manifestation of Christ’s love within us.  We become a representation of the saving grace of Jesus.  May our lives give off a pleasing smell to God as did those honeysuckles do for man.