Category Archives: Relationships

Blogs in this category deal with relationships between ourselves and God, family members, other Christians, and the lost.

The first heavy frost, quiet examination, and a growing faith

Winter Leaves

Over the last few days, winter-like weather has set in over much of the nation.  Even in my hometown of Henderson, Kentucky, we had low temperatures in the teens and low twenties for much of the week. Personally, I enjoy cold weather there are some people I know in the area simply do not like the changes that winter brings.  For some, aches and pains are more prevalent in the winter months; for others, it’s the inability to enjoy the outdoor activities associated with those warm summer evenings.  For me, winter brings about a time of reflection about the year that’s almost done. It’s a chance to examine myself – did I meet the goals I set for myself and what do I need to do to prepare myself for the things that the next year may bring.

I love winter for several reasons and there is even a biblical reason for it. The first mention of winter actually occurs as Noah offers a sacrifice to God: And the LORD smelled a sweet savour; and the LORD said in his heart, I will not again curse the ground any more for man’s sake; for the imagination of man’s heart is evil from his youth; neither will I again smite any more every thing living, as I have done. While the earth remaineth, seedtime and harvest, and cold and heat, and summer and winter, and day and night shall not cease (Genesis 8:21-22). The last time that winter is mentioned in the Bible is mentioned is during Paul’s travels as he writes to Titus: When I shall send Artemas unto thee, or Tychicus, be diligent to come unto me to Nicopolis: for I have determined there to winter (Titus 3:12).  What else is interesting is that the word, “winter,” is mentioned fourteen times in the Bible and according to Edward F. Vallowe, the author of Biblical Mathematics: Keys to Scripture Numbers, fourteen is the number that represents deliverance or salvation.

Our faith is a growing faith and until the day we depart this world for the next, the apostle Paul wrote, Wherefore, my beloved, as ye have always obeyed, not as in my presence only, but now much more in my absence, work out your own salvation with fear and trembling. For it is God which worketh in you both to will and to do of his good pleasure (Philippians 2:12-13). I honestly believe that part of our working on our own salvation does involve an honest personal assessment – or examination – of our faith.  Our faith is to be a living faith and is to be a personal faith tailored to our spiritual needs, our spiritual level of growth, and the personal calling that God has placed on our lives.  Paul wrote to the Christians at the church of Corinth:  But let a man examine himself, and so let him eat of that bread, and drink of that cup (I Corinthians 11:28) and Examine yourselves, whether ye be in the faith; prove your own selves. Know ye not your own selves, how that Jesus Christ is in you, except ye be reprobates? (II Corinthians 13:5).

In the verse in I Corinthians, Paul is writing about the proper way the Lord’s Supper – or Communion as some call it – is to be observed.  He was reminding the Christians that they need to look at themselves – the condition of their hearts, the thoughts of their minds – before they took their part in the observance of the Lord’s Supper.  This examination was to assure themselves that not only were they prepared mentally for the observance, but that they were spiritually ready to take part in something that symbolizes the literal price of our salvation that the Lord Jesus Christ paid.  The second reminder for Christians to examine themselves, as found in II Corinthians 13:5, has no set schedule but the simple reasoning of the need to examine ourselves – we need to see that Christ is dwelling within us.  We do not measure ourselves according to our own measurements, but we are to measure ourselves to the standards set in the Bible. I believe that the need to examine our lives for the purpose of reminding ourselves that it is not anything we have done for our salvation, but as in the words of the apostle Paul, For I say, through the grace given unto me, to every man that is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think; but to think soberly, according as God hath dealt to every man the measure of faith (Romans 12:3).

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Taking time to wait and listen

Autumn Road 2[This was originally published on July  28th in my home church’s monthly newsletter.  Although I am the author of the article, because of copyright laws, it must be acknowledged that it has been previously published and is available online by visiting the Gospel Light Baptist Church website.]

It seems that as modern society continues to advance in technology time becomes even more precious than what it was.  As a historian by training and trade, I often chuckle when I research the development of consumer culture within the United States.  Things like vacuum cleaners, garbage disposals, electric washing machines, and dish washers were marketed under the guise of being time savers for the busy housewife.  By the late  1920s and through the hardships of the Great Depression, magazines, newspapers, and even radio serials advertised the latest technological  marvels designed to increase productivity.

Progress has not stopped.  To increase productivity further and in the pursuit of more leisure time, we now have high speed internet, computer controlled appliances, frozen dinners, robotic self-aware vacuum and mopping floor robots, and smart phones that actually have more computing power than the Apollo 11 command and lunar excursion modules that piloted man to and from the surface of the moon and back safely to Earth.  Instead of technology increasing our leisure time, as we were promised, we often find ourselves having to make supper one of our many “planned” events of the busy day.  No longer do families find it natural to fellowship and pray around the family dining table.  In many cases, no longer is conversation heard within the walls of the family house, but the clicking of computer keyboards, the “bing” of a new text message, or even Facebook status.  In an age where everyone is “plugged in,” we are more disconnected from our family, our friends, and unfortunately, our Lord.

With all the demands of modern society, it is easy to sacrifice something or some things in order to accomplish what we deem is important.  For some, this means skipping out on their child’s or spouse’s important events while for others, it means making a conscious effort to place God on the back burner.  Others will neglect both in their pursuit for one more promotion, one more pay raise, or one more dollar. Statistics show that this age that we live in has more cases of mental illness, depression, suicide, and feelings of hopelessness and despair our nation has ever seen.

There are times when we need to do nothing but sit back, wait, and listen.  Too many times when faced with a choice, we jump instead of taking the time to ask God what he would have us to do.  David wrote, I wait for the LORD, my soul doth wait, and in his word do I hope (Psalms 130:5). He did not write that I will wait for five minutes, he wrote that he would completely wait—body and soul.  He made the decision to take no action—or to make no plan—until he heard from God.  David also understood that his waiting would not be in vain,  For in thee, O LORD, do I hope: thou wilt hear, O Lord my God (Psalms 38:15).  David had the faith to believe that God would hear his prayer and would answer if he would simply wait.

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A lesson in receiving forgiveness from others

reelfoot lakeIts easy to fall into one of the oldest traps used by Satan against the children of God – the trap of guilt.  We all have experienced it whether it be because of something wrong we have said or done to another, problems dealing with our besetting sins, or breaking a promise to others or God.  Guilt can be a good thing if it brings us to a point of true repentance, as written and described by the apostle Paul: For godly sorrow worketh repentance to salvation not to be repented of: but the sorrow of the world worketh death (II Corinthians 7:10).

Godly sorrow, or guilt, will not let us rest until we have not only asked forgiveness of the person we have wronged, but when we seek the forgiveness of God also.  There’s a familiar verse that I have heard ever since I first began going to church: Take heed to yourselves: If thy brother trespass against thee, rebuke him; and if he repent, forgive him (Luke 17:3).  Instead of focusing on the person that was wronged, I want to look at the person that is considered as the “offender.” As Christians, when someone has told us that we have done something that has caused them to become offended, we have an obligation to seek genuine forgiveness.  As Christians, we represent the Lord Jesus Christ in all that we do; it should cause us to experience guilt – or godly sorrow – to know that something we have done has caused someone else become genuinely offended.

Within the same passage, the next verse simply states: And if he trespass against thee seven times in a day, and seven times in a day turn again to thee, saying, I repent; thou shalt forgive him (Luke 17:4), we can learn several things from this one scripture – we have an obligation to seek forgiveness each time we do something we know offends another.  I once heard a preacher at a camp meeting in southeastern Texas say that too many Christians sin “retail” but want to seek forgiveness “wholesale” and unfortunately, often when we seek forgiveness of others, we have the same mentality.  This passage in Luke makes it clear – if I have offended someone three times, then I should seek their forgiveness three times; I cannot get by and have “godly sorrow” and forgiveness if I take short cuts. I must seek forgiveness for each time I have offended God or anyone else.  By seeking forgiveness for each time, it makes us more aware of our actions, of our responsibilities, and our need to rely on Christ Jesus for his guidance.

The apostle Paul wrote, To whom ye forgive any thing, I forgive also: for if I forgave any thing, to whom I forgave it, for your sakes forgave I it in the person of Christ (II Corinthians 2:10) and again, if we focus on the person being forgiven, once we have sought forgiveness with the person we have offended, and they have accepted our heartfelt apology, then we are indeed forgiven by them and should no longer feel guilt about what we did.  A couple of weeks ago, I was asked by a person about what I thought they should do because they were not sure if the person that “forgave” them did so because they truly accepted the apology or because they were just “going through the motions.”  This is something we all have experienced at some point in our lives – and if you haven’t, don’t worry, you eventually will.

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