Category Archives: Relationships

Blogs in this category deal with relationships between ourselves and God, family members, other Christians, and the lost.

Sin: resistance or willful participation

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Over the last few months our church has had the privilege of spiritually ministering to some of the young people from the Earle C. Clements Job Corps Center.  This past Sunday, we invited the two that attended our church services home with us for some Sunday lunch and fellowship at our house before the evening church service and the nearly thirty-minute ride back to the center.  One of the many conversations that I had with the young man involved nothing other than the pains of spiritual growth.

He had a lot of questions about faith and about how to handle life in general; the area that really bothered him the most was sin and how as Christians we should handle sin.  His questions focused on a theme that every Christian struggles with – how to handle the temptation of sin as a Christian.  Almost immediately I began to think of times in my own life when I, through the love and power of the Lord Jesus Christ, had avoided sin and the times that as a Christ-professing Christian, I had willfully stumbled and sinned.  What made the difference between the two was simple – when I took the time to resist the temptation to sin, prayed to God for deliverance, and then made an effort to stay focused on spiritual things, I was able to resist the desire to participate in sin.  On days where I tried to do it on my own or where I had already been “exposed” and remained in the vicinity of the activity taking place, I would willfully sin without any hesitation only to be met with extreme guilt and remorse when the “thrill” was over.

The apostle Paul also discussed the battle with the flesh that he had continually while on his missionary journeys across the Middle East, Asia Minor, and southern Europe.  He wrote For that which I do I allow not: for what I would, that do I not; but what I hate, that do I. If then I do that which I would not, I consent unto the law that it is good. Now then it is no more I that do it, but sin that dwelleth in me. For I know that in me (that is, in my flesh,) dwelleth no good thing: for to will is present with me; but how to perform that which is good I find not. For the good that I would I do not: but the evil which I would not, that I do. Now if I do that I would not, it is no more I that do it, but sin that dwelleth in me (Romans 7:15-20).  Although this may sound confusing the first few times its read, what Paul was saying is that the things that he doesn’t want to do – yielding to temptation and willfully committing sin – he does so because of the nature of the flesh.  The flesh desires to fulfil its own lusts and the desires of the flesh are indeed strong.

As Christians, the strong desires of the flesh do not give us an excuse to willfully choose to sin; in fact, it makes it even more imperative that we understand our position, through grace, with the Lord Jesus Christ.  As a Christian, when we do fail and yield to the flesh and sin, we are separated from the blessings and joys of our salvation until we have confessed our sins.  The apostle John explained that when we do commit sin and If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness (I John 1:9). Not only does the Lord Jesus Christ forgive us, but John adds My little children, these things write I unto you, that ye sin not. And if any man sin, we have an advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous (I John 2:1).  Wow, what a thought that when we have sinned, all we have to do is to ask Christ for forgiveness; not only does he forgive us, but when we are accused by Satan for our sins, Christ personally defends us from the accusations!

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Taking the time to enjoy the scenery

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One of the things I have always enjoyed during the summer is the quick day trip without any particular destination in mind.  I’ve always enjoyed the path less traveled and have a tendency to prefer both U.S. Highways and state highways to Interstate travel.  It has always amazed me the truly remarkable things that we miss in our “hurry up and get there” attitudes towards travel.  We lose the chance to see the old churches, the old downtown areas and even the opportunity to make new friendships simply because we do not take the time to appreciate the places that our travels take us to.

Much is the same attitude many of us have in our relationships with God.  As I began to prepare for this post, I decided to look to the Psalms to begin this particular study.  David, even when in times of great trials and struggles, would pen these psalms, he often spoke from the heart. David wrote, Lead me in thy truth, and teach me: for thou art the God of my salvation; on thee do I wait all the day (Psalms 25:5).  It is an interesting verse; I’ve read it a hundred times but this time, it’s the last part of the verse – on thee do I wait all day – that caught my attention.  Within the grammatical structure of the verse is something that I hadn’t noticed before – as David said, we should be more than willing to wait on God because not only is he the God of our salvation but he leads and teaches us.

As a parent, I cannot tell you how many times I have asked my children to wait on me to help them with certain tasks; all through the Bible God asks us to wait on him, much like we do with our children. Often trying to convince a child that they need to wait for us is difficult; as Christians there are times we do not want to wait!  When I first accepted Christ as my personal Saviour, I could not wait to become a Sunday School teacher, when I felt the call to serve, I could not wait to serve as a pastor, not realizing that God had a different plan for my life.  Instead of waiting and being patient for God to show me his plan, I acted on my own.  When David wrote, Rest in the LORD, and wait patiently for him: fret not thyself because of him who prospereth in his way, because of the man who bringeth wicked devices to pass (Psalms 37:.7), he was reminding himself and us who read that psalms that we must remain focused on the Lord and not on what others are doing around us.  There are rewards for obedience to God’s will, even if we do not understand why God wants us to simply wait.

The apostle Paul had to remind Christians at the church in Rome to be patient in their desire to serve the Lord Jesus Christ.  He wrote, Having then gifts differing according to the grace that is given to us, whether prophecy, let us prophesy according to the proportion of faith; Or ministry, let us wait on our ministering: or he that teacheth, on teaching;  Or he that exhorteth, on exhortation: he that giveth, let him do it with simplicity; he that ruleth, with diligence; he that sheweth mercy, with cheerfulness. Let love be without dissimulation. Abhor that which is evil; cleave to that which is good (Romans 12:6-9).  He knew that at the church within that pagan and imperial city that those who were now Christians were chomping at the bit to expand the church’s ministries. If we use the contemporary church as our model, they wanted to build a bus ministry, senior citizen’s ministry, Christian school to serve first through twelfth grade, send three of their own on the mission field to Africa, and build a sanctuary that could seat 10,000 – all within the first three years of the founding of the church!

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Lessons learned in an unexpected way

Don Sadler (1937-2013) with our daughter, Edith February 10, 2013

Don Sadler (1937-2013) with our daughter, Edith
February 10, 2013

This past Sunday evening (April 14, 2013), our church family held a memorial service for a dear friend and member of our family, Don Sadler. From November 2011 until March 22, 2013, he quickly became a cherished member of our church family. For those who didn’t know Don, he was just another old man fighting cancer with a set of peculiar habits.  For Michelle, our daughter, and me, he became a part of our family.

In 2006, when I became serious about my faith in the Lord Jesus Christ, I felt the strong desire to reach out to others in a manner that not only lifts them up, but where I can demonstrate and share the love that I feel from Christ in my own life.  There have been many times in my life, even after coming to know the Lord Jesus Christ as my personal savior, where I have felt abandoned by my fellow Christian and felt I had no earthly friend to turn to.  I decided then that if God ever blessed me with the means, I would do my very best to reach out to others; its an easy concept and one that our Lord and Savior calls us to do: Then shall they also answer him, saying, Lord, when saw we thee an hungred, or athirst, or a stranger, or naked, or sick, or in prison, and did not minister unto thee?  Then shall he answer them, saying, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye did it not to one of the least of these, ye did it not to me (Matthew 25:44-45).

Ever since Michelle and I started talking about getting married in 2007, we both expressed a desire to use our home and love of the Lord Jesus Christ as a means to minister to the needs of others.  We never talked about specifics but knowing each other’s past – she is the daughter of two Salvation Army officers, Bruce and Vicki Stefanik, that are still active and when needed voluntarily serve as disaster assistance with the Salvation Army; and my past history of service in Scouting and as an interim pastor – we both possessed the ability and desire to serve others.  As a side note, as I am preparing this entry to post, the widget that imports the daily King James Version verse is indicating that today’s verse is Romans 13:8: Owe no man any thing, but to love one another: for he that loveth another hath fulfilled the law.   I cannot think of a more fitting verse to describe the relationship shared by our family and Don.

When Don first began coming to our church, we knew he did not have any family in the area and decided that we would open our home for Don and invite him over for Thanksgiving dinner.  Little did we know that the first Thanksgiving dinner we shared together would be the beginning of a relationship that not only taught us about ourselves, but taught us about ministering to the needs of others.  Don was a man that had a strong need to feel wanted and soon he would get that from our church family and from us.  As our pastor, Alan Ramsey, worked to make sure that Don had the means and transportation to attend church services and special events, Michelle and I had a much easier task – we simply opened our home and our time and allowed Don the opportunity to become a part of the family.

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