Category Archives: Relationships

Blogs in this category deal with relationships between ourselves and God, family members, other Christians, and the lost.

An introduction into the psychology of the cross

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Its obvious to the world that Christians are getting ready to celebrate Easter – the time where Christians celebrate and remember the death, burial, and resurrection of the Lord Jesus Christ.  On television, we see the annual parade of Christian and Easter centered shows, the never-ending rows of Easter baskets and candy at the local Wal-mart, and the never-ending barrage of the critics of Easter who correctly point out that Easter was celebrated long before the death of Christ.  It is important to realize that in their attempt to shatter what they consider the myth of Jesus, they actually miss the simple message of the Cross; this should come as no surprise as the apostle Paul wrote, But we preach Christ crucified, unto the Jews a stumblingblock, and unto the Greeks foolishness (I Corinthians 1:23).

For many, celebrating Easter means that family gathers around the dinner table, egg hunts, and a sunrise Easter service.  Lip service is made to what Easter is with little evidence of the actual meaning of the cross evident in their lives.  During a world civilization class one afternoon about six years ago, I was asked a question by a student that really got me thinking.  She asked “why are some people so devoted to a religion that offers them no hope, no security, and yet will devote their entire life and being to it?”  I do not remember the answer I gave her, but I do remember considering the opposite question: “why are some people unwilling to be totally devoted to the worship of the Lord Jesus Christ who offers a hope, unconditional forgiveness, and an eternal security?”  Its because we fail to understand the very nature of the cross.

Christianity is not merely a belief in God – as too often many of us believe it to be.  We have been raised and educated in a society where we have been told to leave our faith at home or in the walls of our church.  We have been told that we do have the “right” to worship, but the privilege of worshiping and honoring God has been removed through the guise of political correctness.  If we are to really see the spiritual growth and fulfillment that we long to see in our lives, we must allow ourselves to become consumed in the meaning of the cross.  After we have accepted the Lord Jesus Christ as our Savior we are renewed, or as the apostle Paul wrote, Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new (II Corinthians 5:17).

In my own life, although I had fully accepted the Lord Jesus Christ as my Savior, I tried to retain all that I had been taught from the world before.  I believed the lies of this world that I had to keep my faith hidden except when around other Christians and only in the confines of church or church related activities.  I was afraid to take opportunities to tell others about the love of Jesus Christ because of not wanting to be offensive.  What I did not and would not understand for nearly two decades is that I was doing the very thing that Christ had warned us against: No man can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve God and mammon (Matthew 6:24).

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Unexpected blessings in uncertain circumstances

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This morning I was given a blessing that I will not soon forget.  Today was the last day of class at the community college before the beginning of spring break next week.  This morning, as I was getting my two-and-a-half year old daughter ready to take to the sitter’s house, she decided that she didn’t want to go and began taking off her shoes and socks as I was trying to put on her jacket.  Somehow in the process of getting ready and getting out the door, I forgot to grab my keys.  About the time I heard the door firmly shut behind me I remembered that I had not taken them off the hook near the front door.

As I stopped between the car and front door of the townhouse, my neighbor asked me if something was wrong.  Apparently my face still indicated my frustration of locking myself out of the car and the house!  I told him what had happened and he was nice enough to call our complex’s maintenance man to come let me back into my home.  After waiting for twenty minutes, the maintenance man finally arrived and by the time I did grab my keys and headed out of the complex, I realized that there was no way to get to both the babysitter’s house and where this morning’s class was without being late.  Because the course is a dual credit course, I knew that both high school and college students would be waiting on me.  With spring break starting, I could not cancel the class, so feeling that I had no other decision available, I decided to take my daughter, my two-and-a-half year old daughter, to a college level class.

As I pulled out onto the highway and headed south, my daughter began pointing to the various sites we’ve driven past each morning that I have taken her to the sitter.  When we didn’t make the expected turn off that heads towards the babysitter’s house, my daughter began to point to the new scenery and with great excitement in her voice, began to ask me “what’s that, Daddy?” As we passed by buildings, trucks, school buses, and even a traffic light, I noticed the questions were beginning to slow down and within fifteen minutes, the child that I had fought with to get her out of the house, was peacefully asleep in her car seat.

I took a moment, a deep breath, and instead of panicking as I often do, I just asked the Lord to give me the strength to be there for both my college students and my daughter and asked him to bless this morning and to keep my daughter from being a distraction to my students. As I continued to pray for members of the church, my family, and friends that have asked me to keep things in prayer for them, a verse came into my mind: My soul, wait thou only upon God; for my expectation is from him (Psalms 62:5). As I was trying to figure out how this verse applied to this particular situation, another verse came into mind: I love them that love me; and those that seek me early shall find me (Psalm 8:17).  Yes, instead of panicking, instead of worrying about what others might think of me bringing my daughter to work, and instead of trying to find a way out of the situation, I simply turned to God first, prayed about the situation, and waited for him to answer.

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Not according to our own understanding…

EasterCross (Custom)Yesterday, I had a conversation with a young gentleman about what I thought of the newly elected pope. Not being a Catholic, I quickly informed the young man that the pope is the head of the Catholic church, and although a Christian myself, any pope does not have any influence on the way I exercise my faith.  The young man, obviously surprised by my lack of regard for the pope, began to bemoan that this new pope, Francis I, was going to set the church back at least a hundred years.

As I pressed him for his proof, he began to recite the same claims against this pope that the American news media has already begun to highlight:  he is anti-abortion, rejects homosexuality as an alternative lifestyle, a strong defender and promoter of the traditional family, and believes that Catholics must become more church-centered rather than allowing their faith to become part of the periphery – of their lives.   After listening to his rants for about ten minutes, I had a verse pop into my mind that I shared with the young man: For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the LORD (Isaiah 55:8).

Although this young man had claimed to be a Catholic, if one observed his lifestyle as I have had the ability to do since he has been a student of mine in three classes, it’s hard to see where he takes his faith seriously.  Unfortunately for him and millions of others in the United States, they have a tendency to approach God and faith as any other aspect of life and do so with their own understanding.  This is where the most serious mistakes of all happens as we are warned by God through the psalmist David, Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding (Psalms 3:5).  Our understanding, our sense of justice, our sense of right and wrong are not based in absolute right and wrong, but on our own fleshly concepts.

Within our nation and since the end of the nineteenth century, there was an idea promoted that only if Americans could be separated from their antiquated religious fundamentalism then society could eliminate poverty, illiteracy, and even the need by some to resort to crime itself.  These people, who called themselves Progressives, began to promote the removal of any mention or influence of God from our nation’s schools, courthouses, and government.  They believed that by relegating God to being simply a God contained within the church, they would actually facilitate an intellectual awakening and the improvement of the human condition within the nation.  Now, in 2013, we have seen the results of their efforts – society has not gotten better; we are witnessing our society’s breakdown happen at lightening speed.

As both secular and contemporary religious leaders scramble to find solutions to the escalating problems in society, many are leaving out a crucial point of the solution:  it’s about obeying God’s precepts and not trying to remake God or his precepts according to our own understanding. In every aspect of the Bible, we see how man has substituted his intellectual understanding rather than to yield to God’s guidance.  When this is pointed out one hears the same old arguments: if we followed the Bible, we’d have no science, if we followed the Bible, infertile couples could not have children, if we follow the Bible, we’d be oppressing others, if we follow the Bible, or my favorite – we’d still be living in tents or caves.  Statements and observations like this show the world’s ignorance when it comes to God.  After all, these are just simply a repackaging of the old question, Yea, hath God said… (Genesis 3:1).

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