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A biblical study of anger: the sins of cruelty, lies, and gossip

bibleLast time, we shared the definition of unjustified anger and we looked at how unjustified anger can turn to wrath as we become fixated on the source of our anger. We saw how God warns us about unjustified anger and in this part of our study, we will look at how our anger, when it is rooted in the things of the flesh and this world, can quickly spiral beyond our control. The last verse I shared in our previous study was written by Solomon and is actually a verse of warning: Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools (Ecclesiastes 7:9). This warning from the Lord, if we will heed it, is God’s way of telling us we should really consider what is really the source of our anger. The second part of that verse, what I consider the qualifier is God calls us fools when we make the conscious decision to hold on to our anger and let it grow.

Unjustified anger, and again, this is anger that is fleshly based and usually happens when we feel that someone or something has caused us to become embarrassed or our best made plans to fail. This unjustified anger is not only a sin, but if we do not learn how to scriptural manage it, it will lead us to commit other sins that are totally out of our character or we normally would not even think to do. This flesh-filled and centered anger and the wrath that accompanies it has a natural tendency to bring out the very worst in our character. Again, Solomon was led by the spirit of the Lord to write Proud and haughty scorner is his name, who dealeth in proud wrath (Proverbs 21:24). When we place our pride in the things of the flesh, anything or anyone that gets between us and the object of our pride can become the focus of our anger. Some people take great pride in getting even or making sure that “someone pays the price” for what we perceive they have done. At some time, we all have said that we were going to get even with someone, or make them pay for what they did to us. We are reacting out of unjustified anger; God gives every Christian the same warning through the writings of the apostle Paul: See that none render evil for evil unto any man; but ever follow that which is good, both among yourselves, and to all men (I Thessalonians 5:15). How easy is it to allow the flesh to handle these situations; it runs against the fleshly nature we all struggle with to simply do good to those who have angered us.

If we allow our unjustified anger to grow into wrath, it can bring out the worst cruelty from within us. Within the book of Genesis there is a story of how the sons of Jacob sought revenge against a young man who had a sexual relationship with their sister, Dinah (I will note here that the Bible does not explicitly say she was raped or if she consented, as it does in other verses. The sexual act itself is not the main point of the story). Her two brothers, Simeon and Levi, humiliated and angered that their sister had a sexual relationship without being married and had that relationship someone other than from the family of Abraham (a first or second cousin, as was tradition), sought to avenge her “humility and shame.” Rather than to seek the counsel of their father, Jacob, they took matters in their own hands. When the man’s father, Hamor, came to ask about allowing his son and Dinah to marry, Levi and Simeon quickly agreed with the requirement that all men in the city become circumcised according to the tradition of Abraham. After agreeing to this request, all the men in the city were circumcised and three days later, Simeon and Levi led a band of servants and they attacked the city, killing the king, his son, and the rest of the men and took a great spoil and captives from the city. When Jacob heard what had been done “in his name,” he said, Cursed be their anger, for it was fierce; and their wrath, for it was cruel: I will divide them in Jacob, and scatter them in Israel (Genesis 49:7).

Their anger and wrath led them to unquestionable cruelty. Where we may not respond with so violent of an outburst that we set a snare that allows us to kill an entire city, we do often scheme and create scenarios in our minds. We read in newspapers, the Internet, and even on the news networks the results of some people who aren’t able to stop their wrath. They make plans or take advantage of opportunities that seem to present themselves to strike back at those who have hurt them, angered them, and embarrassed them. Jesus told all that would listen to him, But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart (Mathew 5:28). If we take this standard and apply it to our anger, then suddenly, those schemes and ideas, although never acted upon, become sin themselves – as if we had actually done them. Again, turning to the writings of Solomon, A stone is heavy, and the sand weighty; but a fool’s wrath is heavier than them both. Wrath is cruel, and anger is outrageous; but who is able to stand before envy? (Proverbs 27:3-4). When we allow our anger to taint our thinking, there is no limit to how cruel the retribution we feel is warranted by our anger. When we allow our flesh to govern our anger, we become bent on getting even and assuring that we are never harmed again. Sometimes the extent we are willing to take to get even becomes cruel to the extent it is worse than what was done to us.

Unjustified anger, as it develops into wrath, can lead us to become vocal about what we perceive as the injustice against us. It becomes easy to tell others about what was done to us, how we are the victims, and then to cast blame on the person or object of our anger. The apostle Paul witnessed this in his day and realized that it is a struggle against the flesh and he instructed the Christians at the church in Ephesus, Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you (Ephesians 4:31-32). This verse calls Christians to be the opposite. We are to put away anger, bitterness, and wrath, we are not to be loud and boastful about the wrongdoings of others, nor vocalize anything that would cause anyone else to question their character, whether it is true or not. We are not to gossip about others or to spread lies. This is the opposite of what the flesh wants to do. The flesh wants to get even, to belittle, and to punish at all costs. Christ Jesus calls us to rise above the fleshly desires and motivations. Even Peter had to deal with this issue with the early Christians and wrote, Wherefore laying aside all malice, and all guile, and hypocrisies, and envies, and all evil speakings (I Peter 2:1). Just as Paul wrote, the apostle Peter is also writing to new-born, recently saved Christians. He is telling them that they are to be different from the world and are to set these things aside. It is hard when this is how we are accustomed to handling those who make us angry. There is a fleshly need to talk bad about them, to envy them of their success while we see ourselves in failure, and it is easy to try to sabotage them. Peter is reminding the Christian that these go against our new nature.

This is the second installment of the Bible and discipleship study on the two types of anger as defined and discussed in the Bible. The next installment will continue with the discussion of some of the sins that unjustified anger can lead to if we allow it to develop into wrath.

 


A biblical study of anger: unjustified anger

bibleIn March of this year, I was offered the opportunity to teach a Sunday school class for young Christians, men and women, who have recently accepted the Lord Jesus Christ as their personal savior. Since beginning the class, I have had but one goal: to teach young in the faith Christians about their new faith and how to use the Bible as a guide for daily living. Since August of 2006, when I rededicated my life to the Lord, I became determined not to repeat the mistakes of my past and to seek out His guidance through the studying of the Bible, through prayer, and the leadership of the Holy Spirit. Basic discipleship became not only something that I had to go through, but something that spoke to my heart. There is so much more to this faith we call Christianity than I ever realized. Our salvation is not the end of a journey, but the beginning!

About a month ago, I was preparing a Bible study on anger for my Sunday school class. After all, we all experience it. We all know about it. As I began my study I realized how much about anger, especially from God’s point of view, that I didn’t know or fully understand.  What I began to understand is that in the Lord’s eyes, there are only two types of anger: unjustified anger and justified anger. Unjustified anger, the most common, is also the most dangerous. It can lead us unwittingly into temptation and into sin, it can cause us to act out of character, and even cause us to hurt those around us that we would never consider harming otherwise. It is for these reasons that the Bible has three warnings about anger: Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools (Ecclesiastes 7:9), Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord (Romans 12:19), and But I say unto you, That whosoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgment: and whosoever shall say to his brother, Raca, shall be in danger of the council: but whosoever shall say, Thou fool, shall be in danger of hell fire (Matthew 5:22).

Unjustified anger has at its roots our flesh. Whether it is our best-made plans that fail to materialize, someone does something that hurts our pride, or simply just does something that we feel has wronged us, normally at the root is our fleshly nature. We’ve become embarrassed that we have been exposed not to be the person we want others to perceive us to be, but the way we actually are. In any case, this anger is firmly connected to our old fleshly nature and is the most dangerous. The apostle Paul, as led by the Holy Spirit, wrote Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God (Galatians 5:19-21). Unjustified anger, if we gave it the chance, will lead us to hatred, anger, and other sins. Make no mistake about it, unjustified anger is a work of the flesh.

Solomon, considered as one of the greatest and wisest kings of the Old Testament, wrote A fool’s wrath is presently known: but a prudent man covereth shame (Proverbs 12:16). If we are honest with ourselves, we have seen others get mad over things that should have embarrassed them. In fact, if we are totally honest, we may have had that experience ourselves. Instead of taking the opportunity to repent of our sin and allowing God to get the glory, we make matters worse and bring more attention to what we perceive as our flaw. It’s a fleshly attitude that even Christians have and often struggle with. Most of the time, when something is made known about us, instead of feeling angry about it, we should repent of it and ask God for forgiveness instead of getting mad because of the situation our own sin and short-sightedness caused us.

Solomon also wrote He that is slow to wrath is of great understanding: but he that is hasty of spirit exalteth folly (Proverbs 14:29). When we take the time to ask ourselves the basic questions about our anger, we normally will see our anger for what it is – a reaction from the flesh. The reaction is often fast and most of the time we do not even stop to think about our actions. When we are slow to act upon our anger, it gives us a chance think about what we are truly angry and why. When we feel ourselves reacting out of anger to something done to us, we need to immediately ask ourselves questions and be completely honest with ourselves and the Lord with our answers:

  • What is the real reason for my anger?
  • What good does it do for me to be angry? How far am I willing to take my anger?
  • Why am I angry at _________? Is it because they really wronged me or because they embarrassed me?
  • What good would getting even with _______ accomplish? Why do I feel the need to make them hurt or suffer?

Solomon’s discourse on anger did not end with Proverbs 14:29, but is continued as he wrote  A stone is heavy, and the sand weighty; but a fool’s wrath is heavier than them both (Proverbs 27:3). When we succumb to the flesh and allow unjustified anger to control us, it will develop into wrath. Wrath is uncontrolled rage that seeks to be played out. Sometimes, our wrath will consume our imaginations as we begin to imagine ways of hurting the target of our wrath, even if it is someone we love and respect. What Solomon is probably referring to is that our unjustified anger and wrath becomes so much the focus that if we are not careful, it can become as heavy as sand or stones and just as hard to handle. It is easy to strike out at someone in our wrath and anger if we do not learn how to control it. Our wrath and anger become all-consuming to the extent we cannot enjoy any part of our life until our taste for wrath has been played out.

Solomon added to the warnings about anger when he wrote, Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools (Ecclesiastes 7:9). Once something is done or said out of our anger or wrath, the consequences for what we have done may be profound. The saying “sticks and stones may break my bones…” is cute, but definitely not true. Words and deeds can hurt, and when they are said and done in anger, they cannot be taken back. They cannot be undone, and are often difficult to overcome.

 This is the first installment of the Bible and discipleship study on the two types of anger as defined and discussed in the Bible. The next installment will discuss some of the sins that unjustified anger can lead to if we allow it to develop into wrath.

Are you ready for when the weather turns?

 DSCF3056I  have always enjoyed watching the weather – no, not spending hours at a time watching the Weather Channel, but sitting outside and watching as the clouds begin to build and the storm front approaches. Even the most sunny day will give way to an afternoon thunderstorm as temperatures begin to rise sharply ahead of a descending cold front. I’ve never been to a professional weather-spotting class, but I have watched storm fronts developing long enough and in various locations that normally I can have a rough idea what to expect before the storm hits my area. Types of clouds, refraction of sunlight, and the wind actually undergo some changes as the storm approaches and the first rumble of thunder is heard. Needless to say, because of my love of watching the weather, I am rarely caught off guard by the storms when the “weather begins to turn” – a phrase I picked up from living in southwest central Louisiana that describes a change in weather that occurs suddenly.

It wasn’t until a while back ago that I could even remotely see the “storms of faith” or recognize the warning signs of trials and difficulties as they approached. I was often caught off guard by them and for that reason, there were times that the spiritual storm I was facing caught me off guard. Looking back, it wasn’t that the storm suddenly appeared out of nowhere, but that I was not paying attention to what was happening with me, with the ones I was associating with, or even how far I had begun to wonder away from the Lord. Yes, I believe that God does warn us of approaching storms and times of great trials. During His earthly ministry, Jesus even challenged the Scribes and Pharisees: He answered and said unto them, When it is evening, ye say, It will be fair weather: for the sky is red.  And in the morning, It will be foul weather to day: for the sky is red and lowring. O ye hypocrites, ye can discern the face of the sky; but can ye not discern the signs of the times? (Matthew 16:2-3). For much of my life, I believed and as many pastors, Sunday School teachers, and other Christian leaders have taught that this is about the end times. I now believe that not only is Jesus talking about what is yet to come for society but what is yet to come to the individual follower of Christ.

There are times we know when we can expect storms and spiritual difficulties to challenge us. Just as my love of the weather has led me to a better understanding of what to watch for, our love for the Lord Jesus Christ should also give us a better understanding of what we can expect to face. Back when I was pastoring a small church in Rapides Parish, Louisiana, I had an older woman approach me after a Sunday morning service to tell me that her faith in the Lord was so strong that she had never experienced a storm or even a ripple of spiritual difficulties. I will never forget the expression on her face as I asked her the one simple question I ask anyone that tells me this: “Are you sure you’re saved and have completely trusted in Jesus Christ alone as your source of salvation?” It was not out of disrespect for her that I asked this question. It is because as a follower of the Lord Jesus Christ, you will experience times where you will be tested, you will face storms, you will face nights so dark that you’ll begin to question if the Lord is still there. Satan loves to discourage Christians, our pains and our fears are reasons for his rejoicing especially when we become ineffective for Christ and unable to tell others about His love for us.

We can expect to face a spiritual storm when we continue to dwell in sin. I can actually and unfortunately speak from experience here. Earlier in my Christian walk and before I began to take my faith more seriously, I held on to the sins that I had enjoyed before I became a Christian. I often used the excuse that “God understands that I am only human” and with a less-than-heartfelt and sincere apology, I continued to live within those sins. Looking back at my life before 2006, I was overdue for a spiritual storm. I had ignored the pleadings and later warnings of the Holy Spirit. I had all but ignored the advice offered by God through the Bible. As a child of God, when we no longer are listening to the reasoning and the pleadings of the Holy Spirit, God has no other choice but to use a spiritual storm to get our attention. Even the apostle Paul understood this and provided us this warning and explanation: For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth (Hebrews 12:6). If I were to continue in sin and in disobedience and not experience the loving and corrective hand of the Lord, then I would not be one of His children.

The second type of storm we all face is what I call the “spiritual growth storm” because it normally comes right before or after a leap in our spiritual growth process. These storms come to test our resolve in remaining faithful to God. These storms come to teach us; David, the psalmist and king wrote, Examine me, O LORD, and prove me; try my reins and my heart (Psalms 26:2) and that is exactly what these storms are, God proving the reigns of our hearts. It’s not for His benefit that He does this, but because He wants us to see our progress, or in some cases, lack of progress. He wants us to see that our faith has grown, where we still need to seek His help, and that we can always depend on Him no matter how long the night seems or how dark it gets. Even the prophet Jeremiah understood this and was led by the Holy Spirit to write, I the LORD search the heart, I try the reins, even to give every man according to his ways, and according to the fruit of his doings (Jeremiah 17:10).

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